Never Send a Polar Bear to Do a Nurse’s Job


MDL is now at 35 weeks, and the baby is coming soon. I’m not worried about MJ, that little wiggle worm is just fine. MDL is not doing quite as well.

She works overnights in a hospital where she’s not able to sit down and take the breaks she is legally entitled to. They are consistently understaffed, and need at least another nurse each night. They also don’t have enough nursing techs or secretaries, which gives more work for the nurses to do.

MDL has been doing things she is medically not supposed to be doing (like lifting adult women) for much longer than she is not supposed to be doing them (12 hour shifts) and she can’t do it anymore. She is in a lot of physical pain from overexerting herself, and she is having tons of Braxton-Hicks contractions. They’re not progressing into actual baby-having contractions, but they hurt a lot.

Today she is calling to organize the start of her leave for the baby (which is all unnecessarily complicated!). She feels like she is letting people down.

But that’s not true. She’s working much harder than any of us are at home right now. (If I can remember to do both writing time and math on a hot day like today it’s kind of a miracle. I think I was supposed to be a polar bear.) And when she is home, she’s still working.

MDL is officially nesting right now, which means it’s time for all the most awful cleaning jobs to be done. The other day she decided we had to scrub the dining room floor, so she got out the Murphy’s Oil Soap and the big scrub brush. However, she hadn’t really started with a plan, and instead was pouring things all over the floor and trying to scrub them. I kicked her out, got a bucket, and started work, when all of a sudden I realized she was now in the kitchen, scrubbing the floor with a towel and all purpose cleaner. Thankfully, after she finished that she took a break for a little while.

This is just how nesting is. Nesting is not reasonable.

I’m hoping that when she’s off work, we can have more relaxing time, and plan those big jobs into the day instead of doing things randomly all at once. We don’t have too much left to do to get ready for the baby, but you never know. New things to be cleaned pop up all the time.